Benefits Think Hard truths and lessons learned while watching my father die

Published 5 Min Read

An empty hospital room
Adobe Stock

As health insurance professionals, we often think we understand the intricacies of healthcare. A personal experience has shown me just how wrong I was. On December 7, 2023, my father passed away after a traumatic fall on November 28. This short, 10-day journey revealed just how little I knew about hospital systems and the vital role of advocacy.

Hospital systems are fundamentally designed to preserve life, often at the expense of respecting a patient’s wishes. Despite having all the necessary legal documents, including a medical power of attorney and a notarized do-not-resuscitate (DNR) order, I found myself repeatedly fighting to honor my father’s wishes. His adamant refusal to be put on a ventilator was a constant battle, even with a DNR bracelet.

Allison De Paoli
Founder

Allison De Paoli is the founder of Altiqe.


For reprint and licensing requests for this article, click here.


More From Employee Benefit News

Sign Up Form

Login Modal Form